Is it just me?
Or do some fetishes make you more uncomfortable than others?
This post took root because of what one of my randoms said this morning on whatsapp.
My profile pic is one of my feet in dancing shoes. My old shoes. Took the picture, tweaked it a bit, just to show the age of the shoes – for those that see it to imagine all the experience the shoes had.
I get a message this morning – “Would love to kiss those foots” OK, not the best grammar in the world, but I think the dude’s Spanish or some such. And I did not appreciate the sentiment at all, regardless of the grammar used!!!
Is it because the man irks me? Or because his sentiment irked me?
I’ve been in a situation before where one of the ex’s buddies kept staring at my feet. Turned him on. And I was kind of mildly uncomfortably flattered.
Which brought me to the heading.
Most men have a thing for boobs. Do I mind if they look at mine? Not really, but it always depend on who’s doing the looking. There really are some people I don’t ever want to see anything of mine!!
For every single person I suppose there’s something that attracts them in the opposite sex. Me, I like work roughened hands. Can’t stand pansy soft pasty hands. And good forearms. Am I going to go out with a guy just because he has hard hands and good forearms? Probably not. It will be a bonus, and that’s the kind of guy that will catch my eye first.
Presumably the same goes for everybody else.
Is feeling uncomfortable in a situation then a case of you either liking or not liking the person? Because, if it’s somebody I like, I don’t mind him staring at my feet, or doing to them whatever he likes. But if it’s a dude I don’t much like, knowing that he’s looking at my feet and rising to the occasion, so to speak, is not a comforting feeling.
There’s this saying about sexual harassment – it’s only sexual harassment if you don’t like the person doing it…
And that seems to be the deciding factor.
Regardless of a person’s little quirks. If you like them, you can handle it. If you don’t like them, even the smallest thing can upset the applecart.
The Human Condition – such a convoluted thing!